GROUNDED
Yes… Darrius is GROUNDED…. NO TV for him today!
Even after I ‘threw all his toys away‘ he don’t seems to repent. This morning, before my eyes have any chance to open he already do so many annoying things. He woke up earlier than me and went on to strew all his toys on the floor (he has a toy box up in our room too) again after repeatedly telling him never to do that in the room. Then he went to stuff cards and papers under the TV. And before I knew it, he turned the TV table around making everything that has cables attached tumble down!
Tell me how not to flares up again?????
I almost wanna vomit blood! I am soooo stressed up by him man! Then we came down and I gave him his milk. After milk, he asked for TV and told him ‘NO TV TODAY’. He don’t quite get it and started to ask for other things instead. He told me he wanted to play puzzle. Fine. I gave him his puzzle and guess what? He strew them on the floor and walk away! So, like usual, I told him to pick them up or else the puzzle will have the same fate as his other toys. Still he won’t budge.
Well, no choice. I picked them up and to the dustbin they go! He cried but when I ask him why he did not want to pick them up he just starred at me. So I picked the puzzles up and ask him to put them back properly or else I will throw them away again. He refused. I’ve never seen a kid who is more stubborn than a mule!
*sigh*
Tell me how to teach this MONSTER????
If this continue, I don’t know when I’ll die of high blood man!
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Slowly..be patient…dont until your blood pressure go up…
Not just go up…. about to burst!
aiyo i understand how u feel. sometime Angel make my blood pressure shoot high up when she refuse to go to bed middle of the night!
Your girl still so young so it is diff… my boy can talk so well
so that is no excuse he don’t understand what we are trying to
tell him to do!
Maybe he doesn’t get it that his toys are not coming back leh? Stay cool and try reasoning with him.
I’ve tried the reasoning…. but this boy is so stubborn and forgetful!
I’m like talking to the wall!
be patient la…dun stress so much la.
tell me how to?
really one tough boy you have…i really hv no idea if the throwing away toys doesnt work…it work for my girls. i guess boy doesnt need toys to have fun and they hv more strong will.
Till today he is still oblivious to the entire idea of ‘threw away all the toys’.
I’m not going to bring out till he fully understood.
O-kay…looks like Darrius is more stubborn than Belle. We took the last resort: FEAR. We somehow managed to instill this fear of spiders in her. Everytime she doesn’t listen, we told her we will put her in the spider room (pantry room). For odd reason, she correlates spiders to ewww and scary. Heck, if she’s afraid, we will use that negative thought summore! Hahaha..We know it is NOT the best way (and we don’t highly encourage it) but at least we get our sanity back.
I’ve tried everything I could think of. Talk softly also he don’t listen… talk loudly also he don’t listen
and now I have to scream back… but still he don’t care… tell me how? I also used all the scary negative
thoughts and stuff…. still not working… only like momentary so still not the result I hope to achieve. *sigh*
An old saying, “man man kau” (cantonese). At this age, he probably only understand 10% of verbal instruction. Maybe try to show him or make keeping toys more fun. Like a game. Take lots of effort but it is worth it when they learn it.
I was very patient lioa in the beginning until I lost it after repeatedly
telling him but still no effect. *sigh*
wuaaaaa i could almost feel your anger bursting out from this post
seriously, i too will hv high BP like that 
ya almost wanna jump down lioa…. luckily I don’t stay in an apartment.
err….another way is to jst let him be and close on eye
How to close one eye when I have to face him everyday?
Hey.. Alice,
Donch be too upset.. else really high blood pressure. Darrius still very young. When chloe was younger.. we really didn’t make her do anything.. but only when she got older.. after 3 yrs old. But even now.. i choose my battles.. sometimes.. when she doesn’t do it.. once in a blue moon… i would just relent.. and do it myself. PB is the strict one.. and would refuse to help her. But Chloe is not that stubborn either. But i am thinking maybe Darrius donch quite understand fully yet.. so patience ya.
I was the more patient one compared to my hubby and even now I cannot tahan.
All this while I will pick up whatever mess but thinking that he is already turning three
soon really made me wonder why he still don’t take up instruction…. or routine.
He just love to mess up and destroy everything.
a suggestion… a friend once advised me to “teach” by doing together with the kid… eg hold kid’s hand and pick up those toys together and guide kid with the toys to the toy box together. Haven’t tried it myself yet but it worked for her…
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Read darrius boy more moral story, sure he will appreciate it one of this day! I do this a lot, sometimes I will praise myself or Wen’s jie jie if we keep those toys… Sure this will crave in Wen’s head one day! I sure Darrius will too!
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If it’s any consolation, Lucas has been raising my BP levels too! I threatened to throw his toys/books too but only hid them some place…it seems to work since he understands.
We’ll be in Penang the next few days. Wanna meet for a short lunch?
If you can, I’d like to order some Elmo cupcakes as he’s been seeing them on video again and again! No hurry as I’ll be here till June.
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aIYOO…don’t boil eh…cool. bring out that stick and whack the door haha….i do that when my kids try to turn me upside down LOL..I know it’s bad, but sometimes really boh lat…
hey can i suggest something? When you feel all stressed up with darrius, think about Ava.
Read this : http://sheyerosemeyer.blogspot.com/2008/01/all-days-are-normal-beginning-middle.html
It really grounded me….. Let me know what you think about it.
And I always have this quote on my desktop – to remind me everyday not to sweat the small stuff.
“Live each day, every single day, with the understanding that one does not necessarily lead into the other.
Hug your family. Tight.
Put aside What Does Not Matter.
Tomorrow could be a completely new kind of normal.”
Alice, cool down, i know i know, i also got two at home. Stubborn, don listen. Mine not only toys all over the room, even my pillows and bolster all over the floor too!!! I clean up the bed, less than 10 mins they mess up again..like u said ” boh lak”. I consider lucky because i still got a maid to help me.
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at this age, I think he is still not mature enough to follow all your instructions. For clean up toys, maybe you can let him watch some VCDs that show clean up time, or you can hold his hand to pick up the toys.
most of the time, my boy also lazy to clean up his toys, in this case sometime I would help him to clean up a few and asked him to do the rest.
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